Advent Calendar – 11 December

For Day 11 of my WhatMummyDidntKnow Advent calendar, I’m excited to share this guest post by Jenny Macholdt, the founder of the Moms4Moms Community. Her Instagram posts are always so helpful and supportive (seriously, go read those captions!). I hope you’ll find her just as inspiring as I do. Enjoy!

Do you ever catch yourself comparing yourself to other moms and think, “Why do I do this to myself?” 🤯🙄😖😓 Seriously, it’s nonsense, isn’t it?

As moms, we’re often walking a tightrope of insecurity. We look at other parents and think, “Am I doing this right?” or “Why does it all seem so effortless for them, but never for me?” That constant comparison doesn’t just dampen your mood — it chips away at your self-confidence, too. 😕

Let me tell you something: We all have our ups and downs! No two moms are the same. That’s why comparing yourself to others is pointless. Instead, why not look to other parents for inspiration, support, and encouragement? That’s so much more valuable than getting stuck in the comparison trap. 😉

So today, I want to share a few things I’ve learned over the past four years of being a mom. It’s been a wild adventure, but I’ve discovered some ways to let go of comparison and really find my footing.

First, let me introduce myself:
I’m Jenny, the founder of the Moms4Moms Community here in Germany. I started my journey as a business psychologist, but over time, I discovered my true passion: supporting moms as a mentor and coach.
Motherhood has been a life-changing experience for me, and going through coaching and therapy myself has taught me so much about growth, resilience, and embracing imperfection. That’s why I created this community—to share the insights I’ve gained, and to help other moms feel supported, understood, and empowered. I’m so excited to be a part of Clare’s Advent calendar and to share my guest post with you today. I hope it inspires you and brings you a little encouragement for your own journey!

Here are my insights:

✨ Trust yourself and your intuition. It will show you the way. As a mom, you are the expert for your child and your family, and only you know what is good for you and what will help, no one else.
✨ Perfection isn’t the goal. Focus on priorities and find the smallest common denominator to meet everyone’s needs—including your own. Let go of the rest and save your energy for what truly counts.
✨ You’re stronger than you think. You will reach your physical and mental limits many times, but each time you’ll learn something from it and grow as a mom.
✨ Trust the process! Your journey began the day your baby was born. As I said before, trust your path and see it as an adventure that you’re on together. It will all be fine!
✨ Examine your own triggers. If you have conflicts with your child, look at your own wounds. Motherhood is pure personal development. It will pull you down, some phases will be painful, and then you, like your child, will continue to grow and surpass yourself. The key is to heal step by step. Be patient with yourself.
✨Acceptance is often the key. There is nothing in the world that brings up such conflicting feelings as being a mom. Learn to accept those moments and let them be. It’s okay to feel the way you feel.

So, this holiday season, let’s give ourselves the gift of grace. Let’s stop comparing, celebrate our unique journeys, and find joy in both the challenges and the wins of motherhood.

And hey, before I go… if you’d like more tips and inspiration for navigating mom life, follow me on Instagram at @moms4moms_community. And you can check out my website to see how else I can support you: https://moms4moms.de/alles-auf-einen-blick/ .☺️

👉🏽 OVER TO YOU! What has motherhood taught you so far? Share in the comments, and tag a mom who could use a little boost today. ❤️